You Are Seeing Yourself: The Sacred Mirror of Compliments and Triggers
There’s a delicious little moment that happens sometimes after a session or a deep, intimate conversation.
A client looks at me with watery eyes and says something like,
“You’re just so warm… wise… safe… radiant… divine.”
And inside, I smile, sometimes giggle. Not because I don’t receive it, but because I see the truth: they’re seeing their own reflection.
What we admire in another is often a spark of recognition of something within us that is waking up, or already alive and ready to be celebrated.
This isn’t ego. This is sacred mirroring. This is the soul whispering, “Look, beloved. That beauty you see? It’s you, too.”
Compliments Are Clues
When someone lights you up, makes you feel seen or turns you on in some deep, beyond-the-skin way… pause. Breathe. Let yourself receive that moment not only as a gift from them, but as a message from your own higher self.
Admiration is a breadcrumb trail back to your own magnificence.
We’re often more comfortable projecting our disowned brilliance onto others than fully claiming it. We think: She’s so magnetic. He’s so grounded. They’re so sensual.
And forget:
We couldn’t even recognise those qualities unless we had them, too.
Triggers Are Teachers
Now, flip the mirror.
What about when someone activates your anger, jealousy, or discomfort?
The tantric path doesn’t label this as bad or shameful. It simply asks: What part of me is asking to be felt, healed, or reclaimed right now?
Sometimes triggers point to:
A wound that needs love.
A boundary that needs tending.
A desire you’ve buried.
A fear of being too much, or not enough.
Whether you’re triggered by someone’s boldness, beauty, success, softness, sensuality… it’s an invitation. Not always comfortable, but always rich with potential.
Reflection Is Not Perfection
To be clear: seeing others as mirrors doesn’t mean tolerating harmful behaviour or bypassing red flags. It means approaching life with curiosity rather than conclusion.
What is this moment showing me about myself, my needs, my desires?
Reflection is not about blame or shame. It’s about reclaiming your power.
Living in a Reflective Universe
Once you start to see the world this way, life becomes a kind of magic.
Every compliment becomes a mirror.
Every trigger becomes a treasure map.
Every lover, friend, stranger or client becomes a mirror of your evolution.
It’s not always easy. But it’s sacred. And it’s so, so worth it.
Mirror Practice: Try This
1. Compliment Check-In:
Next time someone praises you, take a moment to breathe it in. Then ask yourself—where can I acknowledge this within myself?
2. Trigger Inquiry:
When someone irritates or activates you, pause. Drop into your body. What’s the deeper message or unmet need? What might this person be reflecting back to you?
3. Radical Compassion:
Treat both reflections, positive and uncomfortable, with equal gentleness. You are human. And you are a soul, remembering itself.
Ready to Explore Your Sacred Mirror?
If this resonates, I invite you into deeper reflection with me, in Tantra Counselling, guided self-inquiry, or sensual embodiment sessions.
Together, we can honour the reflections that are arising and let them lead you back home to your truth.
Because you, my love, are divine. And every part of you is worthy of being seen.
With love, mirrors, and soft giggles,
Kali xx
