Why It’s Completely Normal to Cry During a Massage: The Body Remembers

Have you ever found yourself on the massage table, safe and still… and suddenly, the tears come?

Maybe you weren’t expecting them. Maybe they startled you. Maybe you felt embarrassed, confused, or overwhelmed.

But let me tell you something that might surprise you:

Tears during a massage are not only normal, they are sacred.

In the world of Tantra and conscious bodywork, tears are welcomed. They are not a sign of something going wrong. They are a sign of something finally being allowed to move. 

The Body Keeps the Score

 Our bodies are not just flesh and bone. They are libraries of memory. They remember every time we braced ourselves. Every time we silenced our truth. Every heartbreak, every shutdown, every “I’m fine” when we weren’t.

And when we finally slow down… when we let someone touch us with presence, care, and no agenda… the body whispers: “It’s safe now.”

That whisper sometimes becomes a sigh, a shiver, a yawn… And sometimes it becomes tears.

Why Crying Happens in Sacred Bodywork

1. Nervous System Regulation:

Massage, especially when infused with Tantra, helps shift the body out of fight-or-flight and into rest-and-digest. When that happens, emotions that were stored or suppressed can finally surface.

2. Touch as Medicine:

Many people go years—decades—without being lovingly, consciously touched. When that drought ends, the emotional floodgates often open. We weep not from pain, but from the ache of being seen and held.

3. Release of Trauma or Old Patterning:

Sometimes a particular area (like the hips or heart space) holds memories of past experiences. Massage can act as a key, unlocking stored tension and emotion that was never fully processed.

4. Grief and Gratitude Collide:

Healing often brings a wave of conflicting feelings: sadness for what’s been lost, gratitude for what’s being reclaimed. The body experiences them both, and the tears arrive.

“But I Wasn’t Even Sad…” 

You don’t have to feel sad to cry. In fact, many people cry during massage with no clear story in mind.

That’s because the body doesn’t cry from logic, it cries from sensation, from release, from finally feeling safe.

In Tantra, we learn to honour the body’s wisdom. To trust its timing. To meet what arises not with shame or fixing, but with reverent presence.

You Are Not Too Much

If you’ve ever cried during a session, or felt like you might, you’re not broken. You’re human.

In my sessions, every tear is welcomed. Every quiver honoured. Every part of you is safe to be felt.

There is no “goal” in Tantra bodywork. Only space. For you to feel. To exhale. To come home.

What You Can Do If You Feel Emotion Rising:

• Breathe. Let your breath move like waves.

• Feel without story. You don’t need to know “why” to allow it.

• Let yourself be held. You don’t have to do it alone.

• Speak if you want. Or stay in silence. Both are sacred.

• Trust the process. Your body knows what it’s doing.

A Note for Those Who’ve Never Cried but Might…

If you’ve never cried during a massage but you suspect there’s emotion waiting underneath, know this:

You don’t have to force anything.

There’s no pressure.

Just presence.

And in the presence of loving attention, what’s ready will arise. When it’s ready.

You are welcome here, with all of it.

With your tension and your tears, your silence and your sobs, your uncertainty and your sacred unfolding.

When you’re ready, I would be honoured to hold space for you. Book a Tantra Counselling session or Mystic Tantra Massage. I cannot wait to meet you.

With love, mirrors, and soft giggles,

Kali xx